Monthly Archives: April 2014

The importance of lists


About a year ago I was the typical high school student-drone that wakes up, goes to school, engages in some sort of after-school activity, completes homework for hours, eats, then goes back to bed; these activities occurred every day. But then I turned into a senior, and I think you can guess what set in.

Anyways, though laziness and procrastination is not something I advise, it has helped me figure out parts of myself that I had never known before. And though I think it great to want to push yourself to the limit, and maybe even past that in some of your cases, I don’t think it’s a good idea to sacrifice your personality for it.

What ever happened to making lists? And no, I don’t mean checking off items for a list of chores, but one in which you have you aspirations. And again, I’ll stop you before you say a goal like “I want to be a doctor” because that’s not what I mean either. I mean things that you want to do in your lifetime that just make you an interesting and fun person. For instance, learning how to Swing dance or learning cool card tricks (those may or may not be some of mine). To make a list of things that you are interested in that don’t revolve around work.

By finding interesting things that you enjoy to do, it allows you to not be a one-sided person, but one that is more well-rounded. The task will then be easy when trying to come up with fascinating facts about yourself, and will possibly give you much better stories to tell when you’re older too. Making lists and branching off into new types of things can open new doors, where you can leave that drearily repetitive world of work and stress, and enter one of excitement.

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“My suffering is worse than yours”

Lacking a sense of compassion

SARAH BERGMAN. Staff Writer.

Trudging to class on a Monday morning after four hours of sleep takes every ounce of patience a student has. Coffee has not helped, and it hurts to blink or think. But when mentioning to friends that you didn’t sleep well, their response—well-I-only-get-two-or-three-hours-a-night—is a slap in the face. That clears up the message: your suffering is not significant to me.

For whatever reason, it is not enough to lose sleep or feel embarrassed anymore; you have to be the worst off to deserve any pity. While constant complaining can be annoying, dismissing someone’s anxieties is rude and inconsiderate. Pairing it off with a spotlight shift adds to the despair. Not everyone deals with hardships the same way. So why would anyone make someone feel bad for feeling bad?

No matter what, perspective is everything. The way someone sees the world will determine their response. Having only four hours of sleep, for instance, is still not healthy. But four hours of sleep doesn’t suddenly get better when there is someone who has gotten less.

The solution is simple: show compassion to your friends. Do not try to tell them what you deal with or how you feel worse. They are your friends; you should not make them feel bad to feel better. That’s manipulative, and if they’re looking to you for support, the last thing on your mind should be yourself. It’s one thing if you’re trying to relate to your friend; it’s another to belittle their experiences. They will support you, so you should support them. Otherwise, the constant one-ups become a mantra of useless contradiction.

And nobody wants to hang around somebody who doesn’t care about anyone else.

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